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This challenging message is for women who are where I was - struggling in marriage. Trying to fix it - fix him - and seemingly failing while you feel successful in every other area. There is hope. Things can change for you, but it starts with change in you.

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5 Things Your Husband Needs


She does him good and not evil all the days of her life – Proverbs 31:12 Last week, I wrote the blog about how we need to acknowledge that as wives we need help. This week I want to remind you that your husband needs your help, too. We often think of our husbands as […]

The Myth of Ms. Independent


Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their labor. For if they fall, one will lift up his companion. But woe to him who is alone when he falls, for he has no one to help him up. Again, if two lie down together, they will keep warm; but how […]

Why Is Sex A Problem In Marriages?


The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so […]

3 Things to Do When the Attack Feels Personal


Also do not take to heart everything people say, Lest you hear your servant cursing you. For many times, also, your own heart has known that even you have cursed others. Ecclesiastes 7:21-22 It’s not personal. You’ve heard that before. You have probably said it, but I want to encourage you to believe it today. […]

Is That Really Your Responsibility?


For they bind heavy burdens, hard to bear, and lay them on men’s shoulders; but they themselves will not move them with one of their fingers – Matthew 23:4 It’s time to get rid of false responsibilities. You know…the things you take on because you feel like you should do it even though you really […]

Do You Know How Powerful You Are?


Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives 1 Peter 3:1 You aren’t just a wife. You aren’t just a mother. You aren’t JUST anything! So many times we use the word “just” […]

How To Navigate a Blended Family


There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is neither male nor female; for you are all one in Christ Jesus – Galatians 3:28 When John and I got married, I became a bonus mom to two amazing boys who are now grown men. I didn’t bring them into the […]

Marital Boundaries – You Can’t Have a Bite of My Sandwich


You have set a boundary that they may not pass over, that they may not return to cover the earth – Psalm 104:9 “Debra, you can’t have a bite of my sandwich.” My husband, John, and I experienced a wonderful day last week. We were spending quality time together – just the two of us […]

Who Comes First – Husband or Children?


Wives, submit to your own husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives and do not be bitter toward them. Children, obey your parents in all things, for this is well pleasing to the Lord – Colossians 3:18-20 Who comes first – the spouse or the children? I’ve been asked this question […]

My Husband Isn’t My Everything. Here Are 3 Reasons Why…


yet for us there is one God, the Father, of whom are all things, and we for Him; and one Lord Jesus Christ, through whom are all things, and through whom we live – 1 Corinthians 8:6 My husband isn’t my everything. I know it sounds good as a caption under a beautiful post, but […]