September 22, 2022
Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you – 1 Peter 5:7
I shared in my newsletter a few weeks ago that I still struggle with some control issues. My husband was laying in bed looking at his phone about an hour and a half before he needed to be at work. I walked out of the bathroom and saw him, and I opened my mouth to make a comment about him needing to get up and get ready for work instead of being on his phone. I immediately thought: you don’t need to tell him when to get up – you’re not his mom.
Sister, it was in that moment that I realized that I am still battling some control issues.
Trying to control the lives of others, and every detail of those lives, is exhausting. It’s also alienating and damaging to any relationship. As I am walking through the process of releasing control, I want to encourage you to release some controlling behaviors that we often don’t recognize are controlling.
I’ll be honest with you.I often believe that I am helping, or that I need to do these things, but I don’t. My attempts to control are showing a lack of trust in God’s ability to be all-knowing and able to take care of those I love.
I’ve found that the root of our controlling behavior is fear. Either we fear that something bad will happen without our control, that we won’t be prepared when something happens, or that things won’t be done “right” and result in chaos or disaster.
God hasn’t given us fear, Sister. He promises us that in His word, and our need to control reveals that He needs to deal with some fear in our hearts.
Go to Him today, and lay your control issues out before Him. Ask Him to remove the fear from your heart and give you the strength you need to release control to Him.
He is much better at running the world than we are.