3 Ways to Increase Intimacy

Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband – 1 Corinthians 7:3

Intimacy is vitally important in marriage. It isn’t just sex. It’s closeness. It’s friendship. It’s shared experiences.

And we need it.

Life can make it easy for us to allow distance to come between us as husbands and wives. We can get so busy living – paying bills, running errands, and maintaining a home – that we just don’t put much effort into remaining close. We think it will happen naturally, but it won’t.

Today, I want to offer you 3 simple ways to increase intimacy with your spouse:

1. Talk – Communication will always be key! Talk about the great thing that happened during the day. Talk about memories that you share. Talk about your plans for the future. Whatever the topic, find time to have conversation. That’s how you got close enough to desire marriage in the first place, right! Don’t let your conversation get reduced to who is picking up dinner or when the car needs to go to the shop. Converse as if you were friends. Do it often. Do it kindly.

2. Touch – Nothing promotes closeness like touch. It doesn’t have to be sexual touch either. A hug, leaning on their shoulder, or cuddling on the couch is intimate. These touches indicate safety and comfort, and we all need to feel safe and comforted. So, incorporate more touching in your marriage. It changes the mood and softens our hearts.

3. Time – Create time in your schedule for your spouse. Whether it is blocking off Friday nights as date night or spending 30 minutes together daily without your phones, make time for your spouse. This shows that they are a priority to you, and that will strengthen your marriage tremendously. None of us can be to busy to spend time with our spouse.

These three simple steps can breathe such life into your marriage. Which do you think you can captialize on? I’d love to hear about it!

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…and if you want more we are diving deeper into these strategies during our weekly bible study this month as we focus on “Barriers to Oneness”. Consider this a personal invitation to join us each Tuesday night at 7pm EST via Zoom.