What Do You Really Want?
For which of you, intending to build a tower, does not sit down first and count the cost, whether he has enough to finish it— lest, after he has laid the foundation, and is not able to finish, all who see it begin to mock him,
It’s time to make a decision and stick to it. Do you want your marriage or not? Do you want to be the wife that God called you to be or not? What do you really want? Don’t answer too quickly. Really decide what you want.
Please know that I am not posing these questions from a place of judgment. I am posing these questions because I know that any major event in our lives starts with a decision. But I don’t just want you to make a decision; I want you to make an informed decision. You need to count the cost.
It takes effort to have a great marriage when you aren’t in a great place. It takes discipline to do your part when you feel like you are the only one participating. It takes faith to not quit because it seems like your spouse has, but all of these things can be done.
If you believe that God wants your marriage to work, and you are willing to stand in agreement with Him, then accept the cost that goes with that. It may mean exhibiting love when it doesn’t seem to be returned. It may mean humbling yourself and being the first to take a step towards reconciliation. It may mean being the one to make and maintain peace.
Counting the cost means that you accept that it won’t be easy, but it will be worth it. It means taking your eyes off of what everyone else is (or isn’t) doing, and only focusing on what God is telling you to do. It may take your husband a while to come around. Others may not understand what you are doing. You might not fully understand yourself, but obey God any way. God will honor your obedience.
Counting the cost means that you set your feelings to the side, and you spend some quality time with God gaining insight and direction. Spend some time this week counting the cost of following God in your marriage. Then make a decision that you will follow Him no matter what. If He says stay, you will stay. If He says go, then be willing to go. Regardless of what He says, be totally committed to following Him no matter the cost.
I am praying with you (and I’m counting the cost of some decisions that I have to make too - so pray for me)!