Let God to Speak to Your Husband

But while he thought about these things, behold, an angel of the Lord appeared to him in a dream, saying, “Joseph, son of David, do not be afraid to take to you Mary your wife, for that which is conceived in her is of the Holy Spirit. And she will bring forth a Son, and you shall call His name Jesus, for He will save His people from their sins.”

-Matthew 1:20-21

Sometimes it is hard to see something and not say something. Maybe you see great potential in your husband and just want to help him see it, or maybe you see the issues with a choice he is making and want to steer him in the right direction. The natural inclination is to want to explain everything you see or explain why your way is the best way. You may even be right, but there comes a time that you have to step back and trust that God will speak to your husband.

In our text today, Mary was right - she was impregnated by the Holy Spirit. Joseph did not believe her and was even going to put her away. It took a direct message from God to change Joseph’s mind. Maybe that is what it is going to take for your husband as well.

There are a couple of things that we can learn from this account in the bible:

  1. God will speak to our spouse - maybe you don’t think your husband is as spiritual as you are, or maybe you know they aren’t a believer, but God can still speak to them. He can orchestrate situations and circumstances to speak to them. He can use other people to speak to them. The same way He drew us as sinners He can still draw your husband.

  2. Leave the results to God - Mary told Joseph what the angel said and left it at that. The biblical account in Matthew doesn’t portray her as nagging, begging, or even trying to convince Joseph of the truth. She told him what was told to her, and then she had to leave the results to God. Say what you need to say to your spouse, but leave the results up to Him.

  3. Have courage - It took faith and courage for Mary to go through this. In her time, she could have been stoned for being pregnant before marriage. Joseph could have publicly disgraced her or even killed her. She had to trust that God was with her. I’m praying that you have that same trust today. God is with you. He will work your situation out for you good. Remain courageous and faithful!

As you communicate with your spouse this week, make space for God to communicate with him too. Resist the urge to nag or be repetitive. Say what needs to be said (in love), and leave the results to God. He will speak to your husband.

Debra CheekComment