Take Care of Home - Pots, Pans, and Prayer!
Then Jael, Heber’s wife, took a tent peg and took a hammer in her hand, and went softly to him and drove the peg into his temple, and it went down into the ground; for he was fast asleep and weary.
Back in the 80s there was a popular perfume commercial that had these lyrics in the theme song: I can bring home the bacon. Fry it up in a pan, and never let you forget you’re a man. ‘Cause I’m a woman.
These lyrics passed through my mind this morning as I was thinking about my role as a wife. Many still think the role is limited to cooking, cleaning, and satisfying your husband’s needs. Others think that view is out-dated, and that we should focus on becoming corporate execs and “boss chicks”. The truth is that being a wife is a mix of all of this and then some.
Whether you are a stay-at-home wife and mom or a CEO or business owner, one thing is for sure, if you want to be a successful wife you still need to take care of home. You just do, but taking care of home isn’t just cooking and cleaning. There is a spiritual aspect of taking care of home that we miss if we limit it to just that. A huge part of taking care of home is being a warrior wife.
I know that doesn’t sound soft and sensual. It isn’t. Sometimes you have to turn poised into powerful. Sometimes you have to take the red bottoms off to kneel in prayer. And sometimes you have to go to war on your family’s behalf.
I don’t know who told us that being a wife is a prize to be attained, but we are more than a pretty person attached to our husbands arm. God has given us the ability to see issues and fight them off. He has given us an innate ability to see our husband’s most intimate issues and cover, intercede, and war.
Take Jael for instance. In Judges 4, the captain of an enemy army shows up on her doorstep. He asks her to hide him, feed him, and even lie for him - the nerve! Jael allows him to lie down, and when he falls asleep she does the unthinkable. She takes a tent peg and drive it through his skull!!
Now that isn’t very ladylike. It certainly sounds gruesome, but Jael was willing to do something drastic to destroy the enemy that would inevitably destroy her if she didn’t. Are you willing to do the same to take care of your home.
Are you willing to go beyond what society thinks a wife should do to protect the covenant God has given you? Are you willing to rise early to pray? Are you willing to listen for God’s direction and obey? Are you willing to do more than what is practical or even natural?
You don’t have to fit the traditional view of a wife to be a great one. You don’t have to cook dinner every night and keep your home spotless all while wearing the latest fashions and being a size 4. But you do need to fulfill God’s role for your life, and part of that includes interceding and taking action.
The truth is that John is a much better cook than I am, so I don’t cook dinner every night - but we have never gone hungry. My schedule is super busy, so my home is clean, but it isn’t spotlesss - but there is no place my family would rather be. I am secure in my role as wife.
To maintain that security, I’ll put on my war clothes, and I will fight the enemy on behalf of my family. I’ll see his attacks, and as the opportunity arises, I’ll cut his head clean off!
I’ll rattle pots and pans most days, but I will always wield the weapon of prayer!! What about you?