Marriage Isn't Bad

And He answered and said to them, “Have you not read that He who made them at the beginning ‘made them male and female,’ and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.”

Matthew 19:4-6

I know for some that title could be shocking. Maybe you feel like you have a bad marriage, but I want to submit to you that marriage isn’t bad.

Maybe the communication between you and your spouse is ineffective.

Maybe you and your spouse are not expressing your love like you should.

Maybe the two of you are struggling to trust or even respect each other.

Those are all real issues, but they are interpersonal issues. They are issues between you and your spouse that need resolution, but they don’t make marriage bad.

We have to stop looking at the entity of marriage and take a look at ourselves. We have issues. God does not.

Marriage is good because God created it. Period. He gave us the framework of marriage, and it is up to us what we fill our marriage with. It’s like an empty jar. The jar is perfect, but the contents are up to us.

So, we have to take some things out of our “marriage jar” and put better things in, but we must stop dishonoring God’s concept of marriage. We have to stop telling people how “bad” marriage is and encouraging them to stay single. I think we do a disservice to God when we say marriage is bad or represent it that way to the world.

Maybe you need to take inventory of what you have placed in your marriage jar. No doubt, there are some really great things that you have added, but there may also be some things that need to be removed. Be honest. Then take steps to improve your marriage. It’s a joint effort, but you still have to do your part.

Remind yourself that marriage isn’t bad, even when the way we relate to our spouse is. Remind yourself that God created this institution and He has a a great plan for it. Spend time finding out what that plan is. Ask God to heal your heart and give you the strength to move forward so that you can honor the marriage that He gave you.

Marriage isn’t bad. It’s a beautiful reflection of Christ’s relationship with us - in sickness and in health, for better or for worse, as long as we both shall live.

Yeah, marriage is good!

Debra CheekComment