Careful, You're Being Followed!

Be ye followers of me, even as I also am of Christ.

-1 Corinthians 11:1

John and I had breakfast with our 18 year-old this morning, and it was enjoyable and eye-opening. During the course of the conversation, my aware and outspoken daughter began to tell us qualities that she noticed about herself and us. Some of the qualities are great and admirable, and some of the qualities were things that we need to refine.

It was a healthy and much-needed conversation that reminded me that we are being watched. From the moment of our children’s birth they have watched us. They aren’t just observing, they are also patterning themselves after us to some extent.

This is how they learn to walk, say words, and even use the potty. We provide them with examples. As they grow and develop they modify those examples, but the examples themselves lay a foundation for their lives.

Essentially, we are being followed.

As a husband or wife, we are showing our children not just how to navigate friendships, drive a car, and spend wisely. We are showing them how to be a husband or a wife, how to treat a spouse, and how a marital relationship works.

Are we showing them a healthy marriage? Are we showing them a marriage built on God’s principles? Are we showing them the right way?

It’s all to easy to forget that our children are right there most of the time. They see how we talk to each other, how we handle disagreements, and even how we show love.

That’s a sobering thought.

We are teaching our sons how to be husbands and our daughters how to be wives…by example.

Your marriage is important. It’s important to more than just you and your husband or wife.

Don’t let anyone tell you that marriage is just a piece of paper. It’s not. It’s a living, breathing covenant that has effects for generations to come.

Be careful…you are being followed!

Debra CheekComment