Why Do I Have to Be The "Bigger" Person?

“I have the right to do anything,” you say—but not everything is beneficial. “I have the right to do anything”—but not everything is constructive.

1 Corinthians 10:23 (NIV)

It’s not fair. Why do I have to be the bigger person? Why do I have to do what’s right? I have heard those words many times. I have SAID those words many times.

Here is the thing: I don’t have to be the bigger person, and neither do you. I can choose to fight fire with fire, treat someone like I feel I’ve been treated, or go completely off on my spouse. I can act a complete fool if I want to. I can do whatever I want to do. I’m an adult, and so are you. So, you govern your own decisions.

That’s a wonderful gift that God has given us - free will. I can do whatever I want to do, but having that freedom doesn’t release me from the consequences of my choice. Like Paul said, everything is not beneficial or constructive.

So, even though I can go off, cuss someone out, and/or slap them silly, I won’t; not because I don’t want to (because sometimes I do), but because those actions don’t align with who I am. They don’t represent the Christ that I love so dearly. Those actions aren’t second nature to me because my nature has changed.

You can be the bigger person because there is a really big God living on the inside of you - the Holy Spirit. He comforts, guides, and protects you, AND God will fight for you. The more time you spend with Him, the more influence He has on your choices and decisions.

You can be the bigger person when you recognize that there is Someone bigger inside of you. Remember that you aren’t really fighting against people but evil that is in operation in the earth. Leave childish, “get you back” behavior in your past and allow God to intervene.

There is an abundant, BIGGER life that you are designed to live, but you must be the BIGGER person to embrace it!

Debra CheekComment