April 26, 2021
So above all, constantly seek God’s kingdom[a] and his righteousness, then all these less important things will be given to you abundantly – Matthew 6:33 (TPT)
How do you balance all of this?
I had the amazing privilege of being a guest on a podcast a few days ago, and this is one of the questions that I was asked.
I immediately responded, “I gave up trying to balance all of this years ago”.
See, I remember trying to be everything to everyone and trying to be every place at the same time. I remember the strain on my marriage and my life. I remember the struggle. I remember feeling like something was wrong with me because I could not balance it all.
Then one day, in my prayer time, I realized that things only balance when they have the same weight. Think back to playing on a see-saw. Remember trying to get it perfectly horizontal? It was almost impossible!
Life is like that too. It’s hard to give everything the same amount of attention. My covenant with my husband doesn’t “weigh” the same as running errands. My responsibility as a mother isn’t of equal value to cleaning the house. All of these things have significance, but some are clearly more important than others. As time passes and life changes, the weight of my responsiblities change and shift too. What is heavy today, may not require that much of my attention tomorrow.
I had to learn to prioritize. I had to decide what the heaviest things were and make sure they were taken care of first. Then I could add the other things in as they fit.
That meant there were some things that I had to give a strong no. Others got a not now. And I even came to the realization that some of the things that I was trying to balance should have never been on my plate in the first place.
If you are going to navigate being a godly wife, mom, and all of those other important roles, you are going to have to learn to prioritize too. Look at your life. Look at your schedule.
Decide what is most important and make sure that gets your attention. If you do all the little things first, you won’t have room for the big ones.
How do you think prioritizing rather than balancing can affect your life? It’s a subtle paradigm shift, but could it have major implications? If you think so, and would like some tools to help you prioritize, check out Undivided, my new book! It offers practical strategies for prioritizing your relationship with God!